There’s a moment I can’t forget. A white man, sharply dressed, stood in line in front of me. His voice was rising, his energy escalating — not over injustice, not over civil rights, not even over politics. No, it was about the temperature of his latte. It was lukewarm, and apparently, that was enough to trigger a full-on meltdown.
All around him, the world was convulsing — a storm of authoritarian drift, voter suppression, anti-Black violence, rollbacks of rights for women and LGBTQ+ people, immigrant communities living in fear, and the rise of billionaires funding disinformation machines. It was all there, swirling like a hurricane around us.
But this man was in the eye of the storm — perfectly still, perfectly dry. And somehow, he believed he was the one under attack.
The contrast was maddening.
The Eye of the Oppression Storm
That latte wasn’t just a beverage. It became a symbol of how detached privilege can be from reality. While others navigate policies that criminalize their existence, this man’s world was so stable, so untouched, that the temperature of a $6 drink was enough to make him feel aggrieved.
This is what it means to live in the eye of the storm.
In a real hurricane, the eye is eerily calm — no wind, no rain, just stillness. But all around it? Chaos. That’s how oppression works when it’s targeted and selective. Those at the center often feel justified in their complaints, even while they’re surrounded by destruction they helped build — or at the very least, refuse to acknowledge.
Privilege as Insulation
For certain people — often wealthy, white, cisgender, heterosexual men — America functions like a well-oiled concierge service. Their grievances are handled swiftly. Their narratives are always centered. Their discomfort, no matter how small, is validated.
Meanwhile, outside the eye:
- Black families bury loved ones killed by police or poverty.
- Trans youth watch their rights vanish in state after state.
- Migrant workers are detained, deported, or demonized.
- Women see their autonomy legislated away.
- Poor communities are priced out, policed, and politically disenfranchised.
But the man with the latte? He’s fine. He’s always fine. And that’s the problem.
Why It Matters
That moment wasn’t just annoying — it was revealing. It showed how the illusion of personal grievance among the privileged can drown out the legitimate cries for justice from those who are actually suffering. It showed how performative outrage is often reserved for trivial inconveniences while real systemic violence goes unacknowledged — or worse, is normalized.
And perhaps most dangerously, it showed how those in the eye of the storm can be convinced they are the victims, even as their comfort is built on the backs of others.
Final Reflection: Who Gets to Complain?
It’s not that people can’t be frustrated about little things. We all get annoyed. But the scale of the complaint, the volume of the outrage, and the total blindness to broader context — that’s what marks the difference between privilege and perspective.
The storm is getting louder. The winds are picking up. And those in the eye, sipping their corrected lattes, still don’t realize they’re sitting at the center of a system built to protect them from the very consequences others are dying to escape.
So, the next time someone complains about the temperature of their coffee — I’ll remember the storm outside.
Because some of us have never known the stillness of the eye.